Are you dissatisfied with your life? Does happiness seem beyond your reach? Are you dissatisfied with your life in spite of achieving what you set out to attain?
Many people begin on a journey they believe will bring them contentment. Why should it not? Everyone else seems to work thru life, working up the ladder, developing relationships and setting themselves up and they appear satisfied. But what takes place when it does not work for you?
The standard reaction to feeling discontented with life is to have a look at your current situation and ask if you like your job, your relationships, your financial situation or where you reside. Making some changes to any of these will only work if the particular issue was an issue with them to start with. Often people then try doing different things - perhaps getting some more work/life balance. Again, this may not work if that's not the problem first of all. Asking friends will bring different responses but the guidance friends give is really only a mirrored image of what they 'believe ' they would do if they were in the same situation.
The truth of the matter is that unless there is purpose or meaning behind what you do which you place a value on, then no amount of changing things or talking yourself into why you 'should ' be happy, will work. You have got to address the fundamentals of what your life is all about and if it isn't working, then some changes need to be made. The actuality though is that if you continue on a path of dissatisfaction without resolving it, it will lead on to unhappiness and probably depression and/or anxiety.
I say to people that anxiety or depression - or any other symptom - is part of yourself that's trying to make you "listen to what is wrong in your life." You do not 'catch ' any mental health condition - it's your reaction to interior or exterior factors that simply do not sit well with you. So before you continue down a path of unhappiness and possible despair or depression, seek help to find out what's crucial to you and what you need to do to get unstuck - and create a life that is 'on purpose ' and with you in control.
Many people begin on a journey they believe will bring them contentment. Why should it not? Everyone else seems to work thru life, working up the ladder, developing relationships and setting themselves up and they appear satisfied. But what takes place when it does not work for you?
The standard reaction to feeling discontented with life is to have a look at your current situation and ask if you like your job, your relationships, your financial situation or where you reside. Making some changes to any of these will only work if the particular issue was an issue with them to start with. Often people then try doing different things - perhaps getting some more work/life balance. Again, this may not work if that's not the problem first of all. Asking friends will bring different responses but the guidance friends give is really only a mirrored image of what they 'believe ' they would do if they were in the same situation.
The truth of the matter is that unless there is purpose or meaning behind what you do which you place a value on, then no amount of changing things or talking yourself into why you 'should ' be happy, will work. You have got to address the fundamentals of what your life is all about and if it isn't working, then some changes need to be made. The actuality though is that if you continue on a path of dissatisfaction without resolving it, it will lead on to unhappiness and probably depression and/or anxiety.
I say to people that anxiety or depression - or any other symptom - is part of yourself that's trying to make you "listen to what is wrong in your life." You do not 'catch ' any mental health condition - it's your reaction to interior or exterior factors that simply do not sit well with you. So before you continue down a path of unhappiness and possible despair or depression, seek help to find out what's crucial to you and what you need to do to get unstuck - and create a life that is 'on purpose ' and with you in control.
About the Author:
Clare Mann is a sydney psychologist and assists people in identifying and removing blocks to their success both in their personal and professional life.
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